Read This If You’re on a Different Path
It’s always worth it to be yourself, even if it is different.
If you look around at the world and see how the majority of people live and function and you can’t imagine yourself doing the same, you don’t automatically need to think it’s something you have to fix. Don’t think you need to conform to be of value. The world needs new and different. It needs creators and inventors. And to be the first at something, you need to be different. To do something that’s not been done before, to pave new paths, you have to do things differently. If you are on a different path, you do have a place in this world. Don’t ever think otherwise.
If you are on a different path, you are your own mentor.
Most people mistake what it means to have a mentor. The truth is, you are your own mentor. A hero doesn’t just become the hero of his own journey, he also becomes his own mentor. Don’t spend so much time looking for the ideal mentor that will have everything you want. If you are on the path to doing things differently, you will never find anyone doing what you want to do. Instead, you have to be the one to create this new model. Take bits and pieces from people who mentor you to become who you are, your own self, independent of anyone who came before you. Create yourself. And become your own mentor.
Follow your passion, not money.
So many people follow the money. But money will never bring you true fulfillment unless you earn it and use it in ways that foster your journey. Money should never be the end goal, it should be the means. So use money only as a means. The end goal should be your passion and your love for what you do and who you are. The end goal should be your journey and true connection with yourself and others. And the end goal is only forged through the path you are on, whatever path that may be. Listen to those quotes about money that you hear a lot: “Do what you love and find a way to get paid for it”. Do that. And then invest that money into doing what you love.
Follow your passion, not others.
You can take bits and pieces from what others are doing, but just don’t stay there longer than you need to. If you do, you will always feel like you are not living up to your full potential. Don’t let other peoples’ judgments cloud your mind. If you feel in your heart and soul that it’s the right thing, don’t doubt yourself. You are the one who can know yourself the best. And in general, don’t let fear run your life. Whether it’s fear about what others think or fear of the unknown. As a person striving to undertake something new, the unknown is where you will thrive. So embrace it.
Learn to embrace the phrase: “But it’s never been done before.”
People often base their thoughts of what can be done on what they have seen others do in the past. This means that anything that hasn’t been done yet only exists in the realm of either fantasy or the hypothetical. Just because something has not yet been done, it doesn’t mean it cannot be done. Don’t be put off by not being able to see things in concrete. And don’t be put off by phrases such as “but it’s never been done before” or “everything has already been invented/created”. If you have vision for things that don’t yet exist, embrace your vision and follow your foresight. Don’t be afraid of paving the way over the unseen road.
Just because your path is different doesn’t mean it has to be lonely.
Maybe you think that following your own unique path will make you an outcast or a loner. Maybe so (at first), but it won’t make you lonely. The opposite is true. If you understand the difference between being alone and being lonely, you’ll understand why. Because being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. Loneliness comes from not being good friends with yourself — when you don’t accept yourself and when you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. The most fundamental relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. If conforming to others damages your relationship with yourself, then you will feel lonely. But also understand that once you find you are in touch with yourself, healthy relationships will come with people who will be drawn to the real you, and not the person you try to conform to be. Which brings us to the final point…
Your passion will pave the way to your relationships.
When you delve into your passions, that’s where you will feel the most at home, and where you can truly thrive. Going your own way won’t seem so bad when you tap into your powerful energy. The focus should be on your passions and providing value in the ways you are passionate about, and never just to satisfy some urge for a relationship. Relationships should only make up 20% of your life focus. Your focus on your personal journey should be at 80%. If you feel this deep inside, just know that it’s not some crazy outlandish idea that makes you insane or unique or a social outcast. And even if it does, it shouldn’t matter. You don’t need to follow other people.
- To be the first at something, you need to be different.
- Be your own mentor; create yourself.
- Use money only as a means.
- Don’t doubt yourself; don’t let fear run your life.
- Embrace your vision and follow your foresight.
- Understand the difference between being alone and being lonely.
- Your focus on your personal journey should be at 80%.
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